I have been friends with S for about eight or nine years. It's a shame that I really can't pinpoint the actual years, but it's been since about junior year of high school, which is going on nine, so there.
Well, S is only one year younger than me, and she had a child when she was 16. At that point, she dropped out of school, and I pretty much started being a good friend at that time, going over her house all the time, visiting, playing games, etc. Keeping her occupied, basically because the boy with whom she had a baby kind of wasn't in the picture. So i was like her best friend almost at that point, you get the picture, blah blah blah.
So now about three and a half years ago S came to me to tell me she was pregnant again and this time with a different guy named T. At first I have to be honest (and I'm sure he felt the same way) we didn't really care for each other, mostly because I thought he was rude and he thought I was trying to move in on S, which I wasn't. It took a good year or so before we relaxed with each other. Anyway, I'm rambling. Since S sort of lost touch with all of her old high school friends (due to dropping out and having a kid) as is the case with some young parents, and since I was the one around a LOT I became probably her best friend by default, even though there was maybe one or two slacker friends along the way.
So after she had her second child, S and T stayed together and we all sort of became friends, hanging out where and when we could, movies, bowling, pool tables, etc. Just being young and having good times. So now S and myself are in our ninth year of being friends, and prob. about last summer my position started to change.
Now I know what you're all thinking. Guys and girls can't be best friends, yadda yadda unless it's a Will and Grace kind of thing. Well first of all I'm not gay so it's not that, we just became friends through unordinary circumstances which I would have to explain at a later blog. However, since I had been pretty much her only friend for so long I admit I got a little too comfortable. S started working with a girl our age called M and we all went out bowling one night in the summer and we had fun. Then S started hanging out with M a lot more, and calling me less and less. She does still invite me over for like game nights with M involved, and I have absolutely nothing against M. She is a fun person and we have a lot in common actually. I think I'm just insecure about friendship issues, so even when I do come over for game nights, S and M are so chummy and more in sync with each other that I sort of feel like the 3rd wheel, even though S's boyfriend (fiance) also joins in, but the feeling like the 3rd wheel remains.
I mean, it's only natural that girls would be more chummy with another girl right? Do my feelings have any validity? I'm just feeling a little dumped by S because we've done so much stuff together that now it's like all coming to a halt. And she is planning to get married to T in June, which she never really even told me directly, it was actually at a party recently that she told someone else the date, and it was like I heard it secondhand. So that was like another blow to my ego. We always say we're gonna rock out to Baby got Back at her wedding cause that's our favorite song, but she really doesn't share that much with me anymore.
Okay so at the risk of sounding like a big softie I don't know whether to hold it all in (like a typical male) or actually tell her what's going on. Thoughts? Suggestions Anyone??
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